I am very slowly travelling through Joel's archived Grace Roots blog. I was recently reading his blog entitled Roots. The statement that caught my attention was when Joel said that he didn't live in the "what if's." I think that's a great way to put it.
We're really free when we don't live in the "what if's." Looking back to the past and staying there will always keep us in bondage. I've found that the only way to move forward is to turn away from the past and look to what's ahead. We all have regrets and wish we could go back and change some of the decisions we made back then but we can't. The past is what it is and it will never be different. When we spend time focused on the "what if's", that leads to regret which leads to frustration which will eventually lead to despondency.
Like everyone else, I've got lots of regrets. There are many things in my past that I wish had been different. I can use up a lot of energy thinking about what could have been but what a waste of time that is.
Approximately 10 years ago, Father started to teach me about grace but, for some reason, I didn't get it so I turned and went in a different direction. It's only been in the last few months that he has brought me back to studying grace and, this time, I'm getting it. It's actually making sense. These past 10 years have not been wasted years because he was building a strong foundation on which he wanted to build. Yet, at times, I've thought about how different my life would be today if I had only understood grace 10 years ago. I would be more established in grace and would be experiencing greater freedom today.
As odd as it may seem, the good things of the past can also hold us back. We can get so busy daydreaming about the good old days that we miss the new thing that Father wants us to experience. Each day has new opportunities to learn and to grow. Good or bad, we need to forget the former things so we can freely move into the new thing Father has for us.
Learning to live in the moment is something I've struggled with in the past but as I'm learning how to focus on the now and not be bond by the past, I've begun to experience greater peace and greater joy. So, I would encourage everyone to not allow the past to hold you back but to go forward excited about experiencing the adventures of the new day.