It's easy to say I love you when it's all wine and roses and good times but what about the times when life hits you with a bunch of lousy circumstances and the person you love doesn't behave in the way you want him to? It's in those times when love is tested and proven to be real.
Of course, I'm not talking about abusive behavior which should never be tolerated. However, in the normal circumstances of life, people will disappoint us. So, what do we do then? If we're like most people, we'll forgive but there's an invisible unstated line where we decide enough is enough and, when that person crosses it, love begins to die. However, now through my relationships, God is teaching me that love always perseveres.
I've always been a person who was easily hurt. I would internalize my hurt until I hit that invisible line, got fed up and that was it. Love for that person was dead and gone and, as far as I was concerned, that person was history. However, I'm now finding when I come up to that invisible line and think I've had it, love erases the line and I'm infused with a new dose of love and I can keep moving forward.
As I was writing this post, the song "I Only Want to Be With You" came on the radio. There's a verse in the song that seems to really go along well with my thoughts about love.
"I just want to be beside you everywhere
As long as we're together, honey, I don't care
Cause you started something, oh, can't you see
That ever since we met you've had a hold on me
No matter what you do, I only want to be with you"
Again, I want to emphasize, abusive behavior should NEVER be tolerated. However, in our day to day relationships, true love will say, "No matter what you do, I'll always love you."
Giving up expectations has been hard for me but I'm learning to make the decision that the relationship is more important to me than being right. Sometimes, when I've been hurt, it's a struggle to get to that place and it doesn't always comes easily. However, love will rise up again and strengthen me and I continue moving forward.
In his powerful book, "The God's Honest Truth," which has now been re-written and released as "The Misunderstood God," Darin Hufford says "The foundation of love is death." I'm finding that to be true. I'm finding that my expectations of how people should behave are starting to die but, out of that death, love is rising up and is being purified in me.
Love always perseveres and "if love does not persevere through the fire. IT IS NOT LOVE." (The God's Honest Truth)
So, here's Dusty Springfield encouraging us to let love persevere.